“How’s the sex?” she asked.

Written By Courtney O.

Is it “fine?” Your relationship might just need some attention. It’s okay, no shame! Falling into routine happens to the best of us. Let’s face it, life these days has so many demands on us and there are endless distractions. From time to time, we need a relationship reset. Since our romantic relationship has the potential to be abundantly resourcing, it deserves our attention and intention.

So, how do you know if you have a secure sexual relationship?

EFT expert, George Faller, has a way with words when it comes to vulnerability in relationships. George created an online learning platform for emotionally focused therapists (EFT) to maintain high attunement with couple’s issues. Here are the words he uses to discern a healthy sexual relationship in couples.

  • High levels of engagement and interest

  • Trust/ vulnerability

  • Authentic communication/ openness

  • Gratitude/ appreciation/ high regard

  • Playfulness/ fun/ laughter

  • Desire for growth

  • Deep intimacy/ curiosity

  • Safety, calmness, peace

  • Connection, warmth, merger

  • Ability to surrender, let go

  • Flexibility

If you are curious about how therapy could help your relationship, reach out today for a no-commitment, free virtual consultation.

For therapists: Success in Vulnerability

Courtney O.

Courtney is a professional counselor serving Pennsylvania. Formally trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems for couples and individuals, Courtney offers a targeted approach to lasting healing.

https://courtneyocounseling.com
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